Heyy Queen, have you ever felt small?
In a world where we have to connect virtually...
Hii Queennnn, happy new month (˚ ˃̣̣̥⌓˂̣̣̥)づ❤️🔥
You know what, this year has been A LOT. I’m really proud of us. I’m really super glad that for the last two months we’ve been talking with each other, I mean mostly me sending you emails and you reading them. But, it means a lot to me and I’m sure to Zarri as well.
So yeah, this is me saying thank you for letting me be a part of your week, for talking with you, for rambling about self love, girlie talks and everything in between🥺💖.
It’s a big deal that we’re literally here and I hope you’re proud of yourself regardless of everything that has happened this year in your life.
I hope when you look back at 2024, you recollect moments that put a warm bright wide smile on your face and you feel fulfilled, sufficient and happy. I don’t know what challenges you’ve had to endured alone or days when you silently cried or moments when you needed someone to hug and just take a deep breathe.
I’m Proud of you love for being here, for making your mark and for literally being THAT girl.
I know you have big dreams and ambitions and I feel so positive and hopeful that you’re going to achieve them.
So, this is your sign not to give up. Even when it gets hard and frustrating. You’ve come so far to let your dreams go. I mean if for anything, do it for the plot. Do it and show up so you can say yes, “I did that.”
It’s a new month and whenever you need encouragement or someone to talk with about anything random, I’m always. Plus you can always reread my old emails because they’re always there for you whenever you need them.
Now, tell me how January to October has been for you. Trust me, I see your comments and I’ll always reply.
Heyy Queen, have you ever felt small?😔
Recently, I was talking with Zarri and I told her how I think I have a low self esteem. And I sometimes make up for it by trying to please people and trying to be there for everyone at once.
I do all these so that I don’t have to process how I’m feeling. I have a low self esteem on some days if not most. I don’t know if you’ve ever experienced it. But they’re days when I’d feel so small. I don’t think it’s healthy either.
My IG account got disabled and while making a new one I had a thought about how social media has boxed and redefined how we make connections. This in turn has an effect on ow we see ourselves, and that often defines our self esteem.
I’ve been thinking a lot about how easy it is to start comparing ourselves to what we see online. I think when we consume so much perfectionism from online, it has this sneaky way of making us feel like we’re somehow not doing enough.
So, I wanted to share some thoughts on getting a grounded self-esteem. Because afterall our village is built on being confident in our skins, perosnalities and who we are.
First off, try creating your own little highlight reel, just for yourself. Write down wins, things you’re proud of, and small moments that mean something to you. Keep them somewhere you’ll see often, to remember that your journey is unique and full of its own kind of magic.
I talk about this so much because journaling is such an immersive self awareness practice to help you learn to connect with yourself. You have to know you to love you. You can get yourself a journal from the Heartist Shop
Another thing, remember that what we see online is just a highlight reel. Behind every perfect shot is someone with their own ups and downs. No one’s life is flawless, even if it sometimes looks that way.
Also, be intentional about who you follow. Surround yourself with accounts that lift you up, inspire you, or just bring a smile. Unfollow anything that makes you feel like you’re not enough. It’s your space, curate your explore page and feed to what you want.
And, lastly, try to invest more in the things that bring you joy offline. Maybe it’s a quiet coffee in the morning, that hobby you love, or spending time with people who make you feel good. These moments are what really build self-esteem, way more than any number of likes.
Social media will always be there, but having a steady sense of self doesn’t come from what’s on our feeds. It’s in the little things we do daily, the real connections we make, and the small wins we choose to celebrate.
Hope this helps in some way. Have an amazing month your majesty 👑❤️
✨🍾💖🎉 | Because it’s Friday, you deserve a drink
We’ve both had a long week, so I’m making a drink for two. Here’s a sparkling wine (literally) with glitter in it. I heard if you add white rum, it adds a little kick to it. Binge, sleep, drink, and eat, frens.
Have a fun-filled weekend!!! 🍹❤️